Kindness Eases Hopelessness
You deserve to be treated with kindness, no matter what…just because you are!
Do everything you can to be kind to your Self. Remember that we are always attempting to care for ourselves, even when our behaviors have negative consequences. Practice noticing and halting the self-criticism as soon as you can by treating yourself the way you would an innocent child who just got hurt. Soothe, be kind and compassionate.
Seek support either professionally or through a friend that truly gets you!
Take small steps to set yourself up to move in the direction you desire. If healthier choices, a sense of self-control and even trimming down are your desires, you can begin to incorporate behaviors and ways of living to support the process.
Choose to make changes when you are in a more resourced place; rested, maybe after physical activity or having spent time around those who love and appreciate you.
Take an honest look at the behaviors you would like to change, or incorporate new ones.
Start small and experience the success of the change before tackling another one. For example, let’s say you tend to crave “something in the evening”. Make a deal with yourself that just once per week, you will “put yourself to bed instead of nibbling", or plan ahead for a nighttime craving by waiting on your treat, for that particular time. Or substitute the less healthy choice for one that might be overall less damaging, ie. instead of a rich, high sugar ice cream, try Halo Top or Coconut Bliss.
Get yourself small dishes you like, and fill a tiny dish rather than a larger one (feels more satisfying) Tiny spoons are helpful too.
Savor each bite, going slowly, using mindfulness techniques (https://www.mindful.org/6-ways-practice-mindful-eating/) to practice being very present for the delicious experience.
Remember that we go through different phases in our lives, and all of it is for learning and growing, however painful it sometimes feels.
Keep allowing your self to imagine and believe that you can create what you long for...
